Re: The Negatively Speaking

You know how some people, when going through a bad time, throw everything out of the window? Literally, EVERYTHING. Everything they have once said, rejoiced and believed in. All that are released from their mouths would be arrows of negative outbursts. Some of these arrows can even be poisonous. That is when the words damage your self-esteem. Yes, you know it can happen.

Let’s give this a scenario:

A: (after whining for over an hour, without interruptions) Ya…so now I’m feeling like shit every day. Nothing is going right for me at all. How I envy you…life is good for you and all…

You: Seriously? You know I’ve just been through some hard times myself. And since young, you have always enjoyed a smoother life than me.

A: This is like the worst shit ever, that can happen to someone! Ever! (It’s not. Far from it.)

You: Ok…think you are too stressed out or something. We should go do something fun! Relax yourself! How about the arcade? Or…karaoke?

A: You know…I shared this problem with Giselle…she was really nice. She totally feels for my situation. She didn’t go on to talk about her own stuff…she just listens…and I really feel much better after that.

Seriously?? Yes. The big question is, Why Do You Have To Tolerate This Crap?

Answer: You don’t.

You: Apparently, she didn’t make you better. Or..maybe you were just too darn bad to start with.

Re: The Ones Who Beg To Differ ( Part II)

Previously, in the first post of The Ones Who Beg To Differ, we talked about how to make the other party feel awkward.

Let’s be nicer in this continuation. Here’s how you can possibly avoid the discussed awkward situation (san the sarcarsm and insincerity), when you are the one delivering the disagreement:

(with excitement)”You know, this tastes very much like the dish I ate a few weeks ago!”

"Yeah, you know the stuff when you experience it…No need to say further."

"So…what other things are you into?"

Re: The Ones Who Beg To Differ

You have been anticipating the moment when others can finally get to savour your favourite food/song/activity/place/etc; that delicious bowl of noodles or breathtaking scenic view you’ve been bragging about for ages. And the only response you get is…

“Nice meh?” (Singaporean lingo in expression of doubt/disagreement)

“This is it? Oh.”

“You know what’s better? There is this place…”

Now, you are left in an awkward situation. How do you react to this?

PUSH THE AWKWARDNESS BACK.

"Oh, what a shame that you can’t enjoy this."

"I knew out of 10 people, there will be 1 who won’t know how to appreciate this!"

"This is what I grew up with. It brings back many precious memories I had with my dearest family. So nice that I can still have it now."

Re: Those Who Fail To Feel Happy For You

Question:
Where can you find people who would not geniunely feel happy when something good happens to you?

Answer:
Everywhere

We are born to be selfish. We are gifted with the inability to feel happiness when our self-esteem is being challenged upon. However, a few lucky ones would manage to condition themselves to achieve the unnatural. While we continue to make an effort in doing so, here are some ways to counter attacks of the BIG E-G-O:

"OMG I’m so happy I don’t care how sad people feel about themselves!"

"So what if this is like the best thing that ever happened to me? I can’t feel happy at all! I couldn’t possibly bring myself to when it makes my best friend miserable instead."

"This should be the happiest day of my life. I wish everyone around me will genuinely feel happy for me, then i will really feel that it’s the happiest day of my life."

"Is this really awesome? Name me one person here who really gives a shit.”

Re: Your Best Friend Whose Heart Has Been Broken By the Same Shitty Guy For the Past 2 Years

He’s a jerk; everyone knows it, including your best friend who has been dating him for 2 years now.

Now that she is trying to recover from the (what-seems-like) thousandth heartbreak he has put her through, you are thinking:

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

How do you put it across to her? For the past umpteen times similar to this, your words towards her have been repeating like a Billboard’s Top on radio.

You have run out of things to say, or have you?

"Are you done crying? When you are, let’s grab some lunch and we can think about what "you should do" the next time this same shit happens."

"I know deep inside, you know that the right thing to do is to leave him. But it’s so difficult to do so. Do you know why it’s so difficult? Because things will change after that! And we humans don’t like changes, don’t we? We hate changes! But if bad things don’t change, bad things will go on. It’s gonna be hard, but if you bring out the strength and courage to overcome these changes, you will get the best feeling ever. I can promise you that."